Sorry Hillbilly, what a mess.
Bottom line is that PP is owned by feebay and over the years PP got sloppier and sloppier with how they did business. Employees don't care and are not paid to think, question policies and work for doing the best for the sellers. When a new rule gets put in place, someone makes sure it makes sense. Sure did not help you.
Here is a suggestion to get an answer out of PP. Works great. Write a letter to the State Attorney General of Kentucky, Consumer Protection Division and tell them what happened. Give them some idea how much you paid in fees per year to PP in your letter because it gets their attention fast. This letter stays on file in Kentucky for years and public as access to it so feel free to give all details. Tell them about the scam, the suspensions, etc. They will contact PP, and give PP a deadline to rely to your problems/suspension. PP will call you and probably reinstate both of you. This worked when feebay did it to me. Very fast too.
Point out that PP failed to help you during the time of the scam and does not seem to have any plan in place to help customers in those situations. They only can suspend you both on a technicality (address), when you were the victim of a scam that they took no interest in preventing. They will have to answer ANYTHING that you bring up at that time, and answer it via letter to the State Attorney General. Believe me, it works better than a dope slap to get their attention. A financial company that does not take active role in protecting customers from faud? Financial company taking in billions a year, can't discipline a drop shipper who cheats someone (and probably is a good customer of theirs, and still is)? Whole thing stinks and proves they are not doing their job.
Also, in our business, we do lose customers if we do not have a payment plan they trust, which unfortunately is PP. Seems that 99.9% of my customers want to use it. If you or wife are selling here, that may lose you some sales, which you should tell the State of Kentucky too. Give them an estimate on how many sales you lost and how much it cost you since the suspension. It is serious to be suspended, and costs small businesses money, so PP has to be careful in doling out its punishment, especially after you explained the problem to them numerous times. Again, they have no plan in place to be responsive to customer problems.
I still use PP and sort of like it because in more than a year have not had any trouble at all. But had plenty when I was on feebay using it. Customers like it.
This inability to catch or see scammers is going to be their downfall. Scammers know that PP will stand on their side because it is not equipped to detect or handle fraud. Its like they are years behind the times and have never taken any steps to protect buyers. Members have had horrible things happen, not even getting their own items returned, and PP does nothing. Buyer returned something in a trackable box. Case closed. Not hardly!
Good luck, tell us what happens.