Do tidy teenagers exist?

[lottie2005]

Is there such a thing a thing as a tidy teenager?
Since my 14 year old daughter was born she has never possessed a single tidy gene!.Her untidiness has got ridiculous now,her bedroom is such a mess i am sure it is a risk to health.I am tired of arguing with her about it.If i clean it,it takes me hours and it is trashed again as soon as she comes in from school.She refuses to help around the house too.
I try to just shut the door on the ugly mess but it drives be mad as i am a every thing has to be clean and tidy person.
She is so slap dash too,yesterday morning she left straightners switched on, sat on top of bath towels!!.She could have burnt the house down.Thankfully i was alerted by a scorching smell.I gave her a piece of my mind when she came home from school but she just shrugged!
My two and a half year old is really good she clears her toys up at meal times and bedtime.
I just cannot believe that all teenagers are like this.
Re photo....
I am sure its not too far away from my daughter having this much junk!!!
Kind regards,
Michaela.

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[shezz]

Never heard of them


Not in my house anyways

[Rednosty]

I was always tidy around the house and my own room! Its NOW That i'm not (Its all this Ebid stuff waiting to be sold thats laying around now! Come on you lot BUY my stuff!!!)

[kengillam]

Now can I spare the time to buy a watch ;)

Untidy teenagers are a fact of life, however as a parent you need to establish who is in charge, and whilst a room may not be maintained to your standards, there should be a certain minimum. perhaps a "You can't be bothered to tidy your rooom I can't be bothered to feed you" I'm sure you can be imaginative. It's probably better to try and sit down and have a calm sensible discussion about ground rules rather than being particulalrly confrontational, and see if that works first.

[Rednosty]

I think Ken's right To sit down and discuss with her the Benefits of a tidy room Like So you spend 10 minutes trying to find something where as you spend 10 mins tidying the room (When they have spare time and then you can find the item almost right away.

[PATRIOT73]

no............how do i no ths.........i use to be 1:D

[lottie2005]

I dont allow clutter in any other room except her room and she knows this.When her room is clean and tidy she loves it and enjoys spending time in there.When her rooms a mess she hangs out downstairs.She just doesnt seem to want to,or have the energy to keep it nice.
I have said to her that she has such lovely things that her father and myself have bought her that they need to be kept nicely and that if her rooms tidy she will feel better in herself,she wont be breathing in so much dust and that its respectful to us,her parents.
With regards to the rest of the house if she could just cover and put away foods she opens it would be a help!!
Luckily in every other respect as a daughter,she is pretty well faultless at the moment,sickly i know.So its the only thing we row about.
Kind regards,
Michaela

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[herbalbrew]

Ahhh you are taking me back to my teenage years. Parents hated the floor being my wardrobe. Did they not realise...I was busy with work & socialising..and school?? Priority Parents!!

But know what you mean. Youngest son has been a dirt magnet since birth.

Only solution I have found: Chuck everything into black bin liners. Store in garage until teenage panic sets in. Then let them search through all the bags. Works a treat.

Whats still in the bags aftr 6mnths....sell on auctions or chuck out.

[Vonz]

Ahhh you are taking me back to my teenage years. Parents hated the floor being my wardrobe. Did they not realise...I was busy with work & socialising..and school?? Priority Parents!!

But know what you mean. Youngest son has been a dirt magnet since birth.

Only solution I have found: Chuck everything into black bin liners. Store in garage until teenage panic sets in. Then let them search through all the bags. Works a treat.

Whats still in the bags aftr 6mnths....sell on auctions or chuck out.

pmsl
I did that!
Only I didn't put them in the garage......I took them straight to the tip:eek:

Av done it with the grandkids too!

But guess what.....I dont have to tell them twice to tidy up now......cos they know the outcome lol

Yup, Wicked witch o the West:D
xx

[wizbooks]

pmsl
I did that!
Only I didn't put them in the garage......I took them straight to the tip:eek:

Av done it with the grandkids too!

But guess what.....I dont have to tell them twice to tidy up now......cos they know the outcome lol

Yup, Wicked witch o the West:D
xx

I tried that with my lot but it made no difference. The 2 youngest (who still live at home) are no longer teenagers but are still as untidy. I just shut their doors and ignore it most of the time. I do go hunting for mugs, plates, etc when we get short.

[MikesGear]

Ahhh you are taking me back to my teenage years. Parents hated the floor being my wardrobe. Did they not realise...I was busy with work & socialising..and school?? Priority Parents!!

But know what you mean. Youngest son has been a dirt magnet since birth.

Only solution I have found: Chuck everything into black bin liners. Store in garage until teenage panic sets in. Then let them search through all the bags. Works a treat.

Whats still in the bags aftr 6mnths....sell on auctions or chuck out.

I totaly agree,
My kids keep everything tidy now, apart from the odd toy from the younger ones.
But when i tell them to tidy their mess up, They just get on and do it now.
The only problem is, they don't put their dirty clothes in the basket.
Looks like a trip to oxfam is in store lol.

[emma5721]

ooooh - not read all the thread but i've found that having a place for everything helps lol :D good luck

in a way i would think its a good thing that tidiness is not a priority for a teenager - tidiness is a bit fuddy duddy and for grown ups iyswim

then again basic feng shui should be a must for everyone - peace of mind etc :D

[MikesGear]

then again basic feng shui should be a must for everyone


Hmmmmmmmm I think a trip to the chippy is on the cards now lol

[emma5721]

then again basic feng shui should be a must for everyone


Hmmmmmmmm I think a trip to the chippy is on the cards now lol


lol

feng shui - complicated philosophical spiritual discourse for a peaceful home and tranquil mind - translated into just tidy up wash up keep things simple lol and declutter declutter:D

[liverdodo]

I tried everything with my eldest wildchild - big bags - de-clutter - no pocket money refusal to enter etc

The only thing that worked was I gave her a budget to decorate her bedroom anyway she wanted, on the grounds that I would NEVER tidy the room again.

I helped with the 'deep clean' and left her & her mates to it. Defiantly not my choice of colours and she painted the furniture as well. But it did work, I have never cleaned her room again, but do still have retrieve the odd cup & plate.

Was I a tidy teenager ? err NO my Dad even fixed coat hangers around the skirting boards to shame me into hanging my clothes up! ( it didn't work LOL)

[hutchieslady]

I must admit my daughter who is coming up 3 takes her clothes off n puts them in the washing machine she also tidies away her mael things and make sure all the shoes are lined up neatly. I have no idea how long this will last but scince she was able to walk she has always been the same!!!!

[Vonz]

I tried everything with my eldest wildchild - big bags - de-clutter - no pocket money refusal to enter etc

The only thing that worked was I gave her a budget to decorate her bedroom anyway she wanted, on the grounds that I would NEVER tidy the room again.

I helped with the 'deep clean' and left her & her mates to it. Defiantly not my choice of colours and she painted the furniture as well. But it did work, I have never cleaned her room again, but do still have retrieve the odd cup & plate.

Was I a tidy teenager ? err NO my Dad even fixed coat hangers around the skirting boards to shame me into hanging my clothes up! ( it didn't work LOL)

The bit that REALLY used to bug me (as well as the penicillin experiments in various stages of development), were the clothes that were:
Taken out of the wardrobe
Tried on
Decision made not to wear
Thrown on the floor
Mixed with other clothing in varying quantities
Transported to linen bin (usually by me, in a fit of temper)
Then, duly washed, ironed & returned to said wardrobe.
Without actually ever BEING WORN!!

xx

[hutchieslady]

Maybe u should do wat my mother done to my brother, she decided 1 day that enough was enough and left him to his own devices, needless to say nothing got washed or cleaned up, his friends didnt want to go in his room anymore and it got to the point that he would go out cause he never had any clean clothes. it was tough on mum but she stuck with it, and now u should see my brother with his 2 sons, they knw where the hoover is, how it works and they even knw how 2 polish n they both under 5yrs

[emma5721]

Taken out of the wardrobe
Tried on
Decision made not to wear
Thrown on the floor
Mixed with other clothing in varying quantities
Transported to linen bin (usually by me, in a fit of temper)
Then, duly washed, ironed & returned to said wardrobe.
Without actually ever BEING WORN!!

xx

pmsl:D

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