Hypathetical question {sp?}

[pheasantplukka]

How would you react if you found out your father had a child with someone else 30 years back and that you had a half sister or brother that you didnt know about?

Just curious :confused:

[funky_fudge_factory]

Similar situation mate...... found out when I was 26 that I have a half brother somewhere.... that my "mother" gave up for adoption when he was born :cool: Didn't find out in a nice way about it either :cool:

WANTED to try and contact him at first... but thought better of it as I didn't want to upset my dad - and it would upset him big time - he is worth a lot more to me than a half brother I don't know.

It's a funny old world ay! lol :cool:

Is it a family secret that someone blurted out through anger/similar emotional outburst - or is it a dad coming clean scenario?

[fairywishes]

Its quite common hun ... sharon found this out about 4 years ago - a brother she thought was an uncle.

My dad casually told me a few years back i have a brother and sister i didnt know i had , but i was not exacly indulged with my Qs ... basically it was a statement and any further info i could whistle for.

So ... all in all, i took it with a pinch of salt.

NO CHOICE REALLY.

[pheasantplukka]

its not me mel, it happened to my friend :(

the dad coming clean

[fairywishes]

In todays times im surprised that people are surprised by things like this, id guess there are more people with siblings they dont know they have , than those without. SADLY.

[funky_fudge_factory]

When you don't have any control over it, there's not much you can do really.... but you kind of go through the whole spectrum of emotions ! it felt weird knowing I have an older brother out there somewhere... you kind of assume responsibility when you are the oldest and it felt a bit odd that I could have had a big brother ! Very curious about how his life turned out too.... I'd like to know that he is OK and had a good life, but I would feel bad if he didn't... if you know what I mean, so for now I am happy to stick my head in the sand to a certian degree.

It's very confusing... I was fortunate enough to have a grandma that answered questions and filled the blanks in. When it was blurted out me and my sister were just kind of "oh ! alrighty then" at first... and then as time goes by you get curious, then feel bad that he was given away, but glad in a way because you may not have been around otherwise !!

Goes a bit like:-


:eek: :confused: :cool: :rolleyes:

lol

[fairywishes]

I know mel ... i was the eldest of 4 ( though my sister didnt live with us ) then to find out i had an older brother and sister ... but thats all i am probably ever going to know about them. WELL ... Frankly, id of better off NOT KNOWING then. :rolleyes:

[pheasantplukka]

apparently the Dad didnt know himself :(

[buttons-and-bows]

I was told I had a brother and sister at the age of 23. As mother had been married before. I up sticks and moved to Canada to be with them, Brother is lovely and i adore him the sister is a big fat loud mouthed thieving pig who i never want to see again in my life.

[funky_fudge_factory]

apparently the Dad didnt know himself :(

:eek:

Hope everything turns out well for them....

[chiquita]

I've always known that I had a half brother who was adopted as a baby, my mum made no secret of it. I have spent all my life trying to trace him, with no luck. Basically given up now. My mum is no longer with us, and neither are two other brothers. Nevertheless, there is still a tiny hope he may contact.

[Pete27]

I was told I had a brother and sister at the age of 23. As mother had been married before. I up sticks and moved to Canada to be with them, Brother is lovely and i adore him the sister is a big fat loud mouthed thieving pig who i never want to see again in my life.

oooh button you live in Canada?:D want a lodger? :cool:

Sry Kazzi apart from that i have NOTHING productive to add im afraid....:p

only time i hear about stuff like this is through Jeremy Kyle... :cool:

[buttons-and-bows]

oooh button you live in Canada? want a lodger? :cool:

Sry Kazzi apart from that i have NOTHING productive to add im afraid....:p

only time i hear about stuff like this is through Jeremy Kyle... :cool:
oooooooooooops no Pete sorry, I did live there for a short while but came back before i was had up for murdering my half sister :D